Very good post, Jeremiah. I truly enjoyed reading it and apologize for posting not more often. I would not mind adding my opinion.

Remembering that whether it is the man or woman who cheats, it stills needs to be realized that it is a conscious effort for both parties (the married person and the other man or woman) who to do so. In that, there is never an excuse of adultery. No matter how attractive the other person is or run down the marriage is. Communication is the number one roadblock and marriages, not sex and money, most instances talking about those subjects would resolve them. Also we must not fall into siphoning that just the men on this topic because unfortunately woman are (in our society) treated as less than a man (I know this is a topic about men but if the woman is not fulfilled she could falter as well ) . My grandmother told my mom at a very young age that,

“If you see a man getting drunk, and womanizing, he could walk up and down the street and showcase that fact and next day while some people may dislike him and even call him a dog, they would still treat him like a man [sm=partyparty.gif]. But if a woman does the same thing, she is called a whore or slut or worse, by man and woman alike.”

Women who are in the cheating equation are considered low. Sometimes even the ones who are cheated on. You’d be surprised the number of people who blame the wife for not “pleasing her man” or “taking care of hers.” And another thing [sm=rant.gif] Why do some people get angry always attack the person who wanted to take their spouse (I understand psychologically but it still doesn’t make sense rationally, I guess love never does) instead of dealing with their spouse.

But lack of love is the most discerning thing in the relationship.

Ephesians 5:25: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

So if you love your job more than your wife or even the church more than wife, this means you do not love your wife like Christ loved the church, which means you have no love for Christ. And sadly, this often extends to the children.

For Christians obeying Gods word is a must for ensuring the future of your children for God said he would :

“… punish the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand {generations} of those who love me and keep my commandments.” (Exodus 20:5-7)

If you are a Christian who wants to have children that are truly blessed by god, keep God’s commandants. But in doing this your love would extend not only to our wives but to our neighbors, and even our enemies.

Luke 6:32: "If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them.

But if you obey his commandants, “When a man's ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.” (Proverbs 16:7).

Because for God obedience is essential:
To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams. (I Samuel 15:22)

So to have Children that will grow up to value their companion, you must teach them to obey God’s commandments, the greatest of which is to love God and one another. Without love for others people will only love and worry about themselves.