True character is revealed not by what a man does when people are watching but by what he does when nobody is around.

Point Man – Week #7 A Bible study on a man leading his family based on the Steve Farrar book.

Sorry I missed doing a lesson last week but the last 2 weeks I took a short vacation with my wife and friends to New Mexico and last weekend we celebrated my son’s 25th birthday. We had fun with his new .22 rifle and scope and went shooting at the rifle range. This was certainly a father and son bonding time.

A couple of weeks ago we talked about the power of prayer and being in prayer through out your life (Being a Christian is not a 100 yard dash but a life long marathon). This week we will talk about a husband and wife as a team in marriage.

What is a team? A team is a group organized to work together for a common purpose. Teams normally have members with complementary skills and generate synergy through a coordinated effort.

Examples of teams:

NFL – Joe Montana/Jerry Rice (Quarterback/Receiver)

1st Space Shuttle - John Young and Robert Crippen (Pilot/Co-Pilot)

Gulf War - Norman Schwarzkopf and Dick Cheney (General/Secretary of Defense)

Football – Tom Landry and Roger Staubach (Coach/Quarterback)

What did they all have in common? They had a goal and were successful at accomplishing it. Even though one was the leader, they both worked together.

Marriage should be the same way. The husband is the spiritual leader for his family but they both work together for a common goal. Now here is a supporting scripture:

Ephesians 5: 22-24

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church…, Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Now that does not mean you are to be a dictator. None of us escape submission. We are all under some authority. Spiritual leaders are over congregations, governing authorities over citizens, husbands over homes, parents over children, children over pets. I think you get the idea.

For the wife, it should be said that the form her submission takes will vary according to the quality of her husband’s leadership. If her husband is a godly man who has a biblical vision for the family and leads the family in the things of the Spirit, a godly wife will rejoice in this leadership and support him. This is all about trust, men. Trust is what motivates people to follow our leadership, whether at home, work, or play. Trust must be earned. Keep this in mind guys.

We should also love our wife.

Ephesians: 5:25-33

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

The husband has been given authority in the home by God, just as a quarterback has been given authority in the huddle or the airline captain has in the cockpit. Male authority in the home is not a popular idea and maybe that is why the American family is in such trouble. Scripture indicates that God holds the man responsible for decisions made in the family just as the quarterback is responsible for the decisions on the field and the airline captain is responsible for decisions in the cockpit.

When Eve succumbed to temptation first in the book of Genesis, God sought out Adam first because of his headship position since he was ultimately responsible for those sinful choices.

We know when