True character is revealed not by what a man does when people are watching but by what he does when nobody is around.


Point Man – Week #11/The Last Chapter - A Bible study on a man leading his family based on the Steve Farrar book.

Last week we discussed “Telling your kids what you don’t want to tell them”. This lesson is our last lesson in the “Point Man” book and it is about being the "Rock and Role Model" for your family>

This lesson will be short and sweet. Guys, if you want to win the war on the family, you must do 2 things. You have to be the rock for your family and the role model for your family. You will be helping those you love most and spiritually contributing to the Kingdom of God. Being a rock means having a solid commitment to your wife, a willingness to be involved in your children’s lives, and having a heart for Jesus Christ.
This “rock” foundation needs to carry over into your careers and relationships you have with family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, etc. True success is not measured by your net worth but by your willingness to “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” (Matthew 6:33)

Being a “rock” is not easy if your father was not a rock. But you need to be the “rock” so your son will have an example and can emulate you when he becomes a dad. It is a rule of life that boys grow up to be like their fathers which can be bad or good. What do you want it to be? Obviously you want it to be good because nobody wants their children to make the same mistakes we did. You can make a conscious decision to become a rock and role model who will change your generational chain from a negative to a positive.
Your choice will affect your children and the generations in your family to come. Be the man who will make a difference in his family and change his family’s lives forever.
If you did not have a father who was after God’s own heart, then you can make Jesus Christ the Rock and Role model of your life and Jesus will help you with that.

Here are some powerful words Jesus spoke that will apply to those who want to lead their families:

Matthew 7:24-29 The Wise and Foolish Builders
"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash."
When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, because he taught as one who had authority, and not as their teachers of the law.

Be the Rock and Role model God wants you to be. God will support you and it is a tremendous privilege. If we are willing to become the “Point Man” in our families, we can count on God’s support, power, and blessings on our lives.

2 Chronicles 16:9 For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.

Be the man whose heart is fully committed toward God and your life and your family will receive His blessings beyond measure.

Be the “Point Man” in the war against your family.

I am not sure what lesson I may come up with next. My son is graduating from school and we will be moving him from his dorm and I will be busy with that and family time over the next few weeks. I will keep you posted.

Have a great week and I will see you on the forum.