ORIGINAL: Billionaire
I'm glad that the offenders are in jail. I hope that they stay in there fore a long time and I hope the victim's parents sue the offenders' parents for everything they have. I hope they set an example. My father was an abusive, mean, sadistic bully who frequently badmouthed me, never said anything good about me, and sometimes hit me. One time he started hitting my face so I punched him out. I gave him a big lump on his head. He bothered me a lot less after that and he never tried to hit me again. He ruined my life with all his abuse. He had programmed me to feel worthless, helpless, and undeserving of a good life, even though my IQ is 140. I ended up with chronic & severe depression and was a chronic failure because of him. I tried therapy and antidepressant drugs, but the therapists didn't know anything helpful and the drugs were not a solution or a cure. I cured myself of depression using lots of self help books and good nutrition. After that, I started reading books on how to become successful. Now I have my own business and I'm a lot happier. It's still hard to not think about the people that abused me, but I try my best.
I am happy to hear that you came through that and turned you anger and sadness and channeled it into something positive. Sadly many do not turn out as well as you
I'm against spanking. Spanking = ignorant & abusive parenting. That's like the easy, ignorant way to raise kids without reading any books about how to do it properly or learning anything about child psychology. I think spanking does cause a lot of harm and resentment and psychological problems. The problem is that there are too many idiots who have kids and know absolutely nothing about good parenting and never read any books on it. And then they act like they are gods to their kids and like they know everything. My father did spank me and verbally abuse me and I ended up having lots of psychological problems which ruined my life for a long time and I had to spend years on fixing myself, with great difficulty. I absolutely think parents who beat their kids should go to jail and kids who beat other kids should go to jail. This whole thing of it being ok to beat kids but not adults is a horrible double standard and it has to end. I think if a parent beats his/her kid, the kid should get a weapon and beat the parent. They shouldn't take the abuse, just like you guys wouldn't if someone beat you right now.
I have to respectfully disagree, here. One problem is that some parents beat their kids for the tiniest infraction. Instead of using some sort of elevating punishment scale. You get an “F” in class get whooped, missed the bus, get whooped, theirs no real alternative no increasing of punishment. Spanking in my house was for serious infractions, not to relive steam from my parents.
And spankings, mixed with being grounded, the taking away of privileges, etc is good tool these days. The thought of being punishment can be powerful. My grandmother raised 7 kids by herself. Shoe would never whip them right away. She’d wait sometimes day before she punished them. It was a powerful way from a single woman to raise 7 kids by herself.
Theirs a difference between spanking and beating. Unfortunately, too many cross the line. And they should be dealt with accordingly.