The trouble is, on the SE you have no way of going to the personal settings. Personally, I'd also like to set it so the headlights don't come on when you unlock the doors. Or at least be able to cut down on the amount of time they stay on if, for example, you merely unlock the door to get something out of the car. As it is now, they'll stay on about 90 seconds.

 

I have wondered about the lights coming on upon getting out of the car and getting in as well. I don't really like the lights coming on feature myself.