True character is revealed not by what a man does when people are watching but by what he does when nobody is around.

Point Man – Week #4 A bible study on a man leading his family based on the Steve Farrar book.

Well I hope everybody had as great a week as I did spending time with my 2 youngst son who was home from college for spring break and left yesterday, but we had a great time catching up.

We got real serious last week in our bible study and bottom line we talked that “Something that real men must not do if there is any hope of saving their boys is commit adultery. This week we will talk about being a one-woman kind of man.

Guys, if we have any hope of saving our boys we have to save our marriages. How do we do that……by commitment? Well, commitment is the act of committing and to commit by definition is to : “to commit oneself to a promise” or guarantee that you will do what you promised. We have to commit to the vows we made……remember the ones we made at the altar, “for better or for worse, in sickness’ and in health, as long as you both shall live”.

So what does the Bible have to say on this subject?

Malachi 2:15-16
15 Hasn't he made the two of you one? Both of you belong to him in body and spirit. And why has he made you one? Because he was looking for godly children. So guard yourself in your spirit. Don't break your promise to the wife you married when you were young.
16 "I hate divorce," says the Lord God of Israel. "I hate it when people do anything that harms others," says the Lord who rules over all.
So guard yourself in your spirit. And don't break your promises.

I think God make it very clear on what He has to say on the subject of divorce.

In regards to commitment, unfortunately in this day and age promises and commitments has lost its meaning. It is not good enough to keep your word, promise, or your vow you have to have it in writing and via a legal document. Even then that is not a sign that somebody will keep their commitment whether it is marriage, business, politics, or professional sports. Just know that a promise is a promise no matter what and know that God is watching and knows everything you do, think, and say. Remember the definition of “True Character” at the beginning of this lesson? Scroll up if you have to look.

For you Marine guys please bear with me as you already know this but what does Semper Fidelis mean? This was the Marine Corp motto adopted in 1883 that in Latin means “Always Faithful”. But it is more than just a motto for the Marines, it is a way of life. It is a commitment they all share for their country, to their Corps, and to each other.
That is why there are no ex-Marines only former Marines. We could all learn from that, especially the first word of the motto “Always”…….not just when we feel like it.

When we run a 100 yard dash, we suck it up and do the 100 yards not 95 yards. Every day we have to be committed to run the marriage race. Our sons need to learn this lesson from his father and he will have a tremendous advantage when he becomes a husband. He will learn to be responsible in the marriage even though sometimes things are not going so good, as there are always hills and valleys in a marriage. So in addition to being committed, this also means being a one-woman kind of man.

So what does that mean? If we are going to save the boys, we must first save our marriages. The way to save our marriages is to become a one-woman kind of man.
So how do I do that? Well let me back up just a second and explain something. Guys are just wired differently than gals, in case some of you were wondering. LOL! Sorry I had to put something funny in here. Guys have radar antennas in their heads and when a gal walks into the room it is natural for the guys to look at her. But after that initial look is when we mentally thin

 

Very good post, Jeremiah, especially the end when you talk about “feet”. Ironically, in the bible many believe that the word feet was often used as a euphemism for the genitals because of the connotation of text. (Ruth 3, Exodus 4:24-26) So men should be committed to his wife with his body (feet and all) and mind.

 

Good points, Jeremiah. Thank you again for sharing this. I see some areas that I need some work.

 

Guys, thank for the compliments, but just know this. We are all guys. Well at least most of us on the forum.

We are not perfect and yes we can all use work in this area and that is why it is good we can talk about it
to support each other as best we can.

 

While I can admit a passing glance once in a while at other women I would NEVER consider anyone else but my wife. I deeply love her and know that I am a lucky man to have found her. It is human nature to notice an attractive woman and this also happens with women noticing men. It doesn't mean a thing unless one wonders what it would be like to have them. These are two completely different things. I think God gave us this recognition factor but our own will determines whether we notice that an individual is attractive or pursue it further than that. God made us all human and gave us all free will.

 

I agree with you deranged.

It is not the 1st look that gets you because God made us that way. It is the 2nd look that gets you.

Job 31:1 "I made an agreement with my eyes. I promised not to look at another woman with sexual longing.

The 2nd look is usually where the sexual longing is.

deranged: "I would NEVER consider anyone else but my wife"

 

True character is revealed not by what a man does when people are watching but by what he does when nobody is around.

Point Man – Week #5 A Bible study on a man leading his family based on the Steve Farrar book.


Last week we talked about, “if we have any hope of saving our boys we have to save our marriages”. This week we will talk about anorexic men and their bulimic cousins. So what does this lesson have to do with food? Well, in a sense God’s word is food to our spiritual being to strengthen us just like food you eat strengthens our physical body.

The next 2 weeks will be critical because we will be talking about biblical principals that without them you can never be a spiritual leader in your family.

Earlier we talked about how the enemy’s 2 strategies on the war on the family is to:
1. Effectively alienate and sever the relationship between the husband and wife.
2. Effectively alienate and sever the relationship between the father and children.

Here is the 3rd strategy he uses:
3. Effectively sever and alienate a man from the spiritual disciplines that will keep him fit and effective for spiritual battle.

This is where Satan keeps a man from reaching his full potential for Christ. You may go to church every week, on the church board, etc., but if you are not involved in these 2 disciplines your impact will be minimal on your family and minimal on your church.
In short, spiritual activity does not equal spiritual effectiveness.

Thousands of Christian men have spiritual anorexia, and that is why they are ineffective in leading their families. Spiritual anorexia is an aversion to reading the Scriptures. Since God’s word is strength for our spiritual being, then without it we are weak.

Matthew 4:4 “Man does not live on bread alone but on every word that comes from the mouth of God”.

Deuteronomy 32:46-47 he said to them, "Take to heart all the words I have solemnly declared to you this day, so that you may command your children to obey carefully all the words of this law. They are not just idle words for you—they are your life.

Most Christian men have several copies of the Bible and bring one to church every week but rarely read it during the week. Many of these men are considered the leaders in the church and yet are spiritually anorexic. The enemy doesn’t mind if you like the Bible just as long as you do not read from it.

Many of us have good intentions of going to the gym to work out our physical bodies, but we come up with all kinds of these excuses: I am too tired, I forgot to bring my clothes, I have too many things to do at work or at home, etc. The same holds true for reading the Bible.

Basically, you need to find a place everyday that is a quiet and intimate place to read the Bible. After all, this is God speaking to you and don’t you want to hear what the Creator of the Universe has to say to you?

The reading of the Scriptures serves several reasons:

1. It reminds us that there is a God who rules the affairs of my life and that He controls our lives and circumstances.
2. Reading the Bible reminds us of what is true. This is that carpenter’s level that we all need in our lives. There is a right and wrong; there are consequences for making wrong choices. I will not repay evil for evil.

John 8:32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."

3. Reading the Scripture reinforces my conviction

We live in a society that is constantly trying to chip away at our biblical convictions and reading the word keeps us constant in our convictions. Several of my son’s friends had gone off to college and their belief system has changed because they are going with the crowd and doing things they shouldn’t be doing. I would call that being wishy washy in your faith. We are in a war for our families, and we cannot afford to compromise the di

 

Thanks Jeremiah, a very good read to start the week on. I agree with all that was said and let you know its good to hear those words. I have found comfort in these written words and I'm sure others will also. I hope it opens dialoge and leads to answered questions in all our daily lives. Keep them coming and I look forward to reading more. GOD bless all of you this fine week and bring you strength throughout the days.

 

Very important points made. This is one of my weaknesses. With all I have going on in my life right now, I struggle to find time to read the Bible. It is partly due to my busy schedule, it is also due to the lack of an objective study group, but mostly it is my fault for not taking the time to do it. I'm going to look into finding one of those lists that help you read the Bible within a year for my version of the Bible.

 

I couldn't of said it better myself